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| WELCOME
BACK FROM SUMMER VACATION |
| As
you again adjust to the rigors
of the school schedule and the
whirlwind of youthful energy all
about you, We HOPE to be here
to provide some tools that will
make the 2000-2001, for some
the REAL MILLENIUM year,MORE
PRODUCTIVE, MORE SUPPORTIVE,
AND MORE CREATIVE than ever.
Look in this newsletter for
new options to reach teens more
profoundly, develop their assets,
implement service learning,
actively engage in prevention,
take pride in being sober and
drug free.
Look at some featured counselors,
teachers, administrators doing
the REAL work of shaping our
youth. These are our countries
REAL HEROES!
Look for what’s NEWS
and WHERE to LINK UP with resources
right now!
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| NEWS
OF HOPE Volume
3 |
| A
Reminder to the Dot.com Generation!
"Remind me each day that
the race is not always to the
swift;
that there is more to life than
increasing its speed.
Let me look upward into the
towering oak and know that it
grew great and strong because
it grew slowly and well."
Orin L. Crain
Our web site: www.legacyofhope.com
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CONTENTS
OF NEWS OF HOPE
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Legacy's
3-prong approach to healthy
life balance for both teens
and adults |
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Report
card on parent-teen communication |
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How
well do you listen to teens? |
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Women
and men differ in their
stress response |
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First
new stress model in 60 years!
By Ken Vanderlip, Ph.D. |
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This
month we recommend: Web
sites worth visiting |
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INTRIGUING
CURRENT PREVENTION ARTICLES
from Join Together |
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Legacy's
"Real World role models"
of the month! |
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Four
Adults Worthy of Notice
and Praise for their dedicated
work on behalf of youth! |
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| 1. Legacy's
3-prong approach to healthy life
balance for both teens and adults |
Step
One - CREATE AWARENESS
AND A DESIRE FOR CHANGE
For students, educators, parents
and corporations,LEGACY OF HOPE
captivates attention and builds
a bond of trust. Then both youth
and adults are ready to break
through denial,Take action to
reach out and ask for help,And
commit to a proactive approach
in helping others as well as improving
their own lives. Step
Two - ASSESS THE NEED
FOR SUPPORT AND CONTACT
Immediately following LEGACY
OF HOPE, survey or conduct a
Needs Assessment where teens
and/or adults can indicate their
need for support, coaching,
mentoring, counseling, communication
skills, stress/anger management
training, and rehabilitation.
Step Three
- DEVELOP SKILLS SETS TO CREATE
POSITIVE CHANGE
Provide DE-STRESS FOR SUCCESS
training/retreats to replace
self-anesthetization (drug and
alcohol use, sex,food, etc.)
and venting (violence, abuse,
suicide) behaviors with positive
constructive stress management
tools, techniques and support.
CONTACT US AT LEGACY FOR MORE
DETAILS AND AN EXPLANATION OF
OUR "FOUR PILLAR"
APPROACH. 800-707-1977 Susie@LegacyHope.com
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| 2. REPORT
CARD ON PARENT-TEEN COMMUNICATION
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| How
well do you listen to teens?
Parents Get Poor Grades for
Listening.
American teenagers say that
parents deserve a near-failing
grade for their efforts to prevent
underage drinking. Teens also
gave adults poor marks for their
work in fighting guns and violence.
(UPI 6/7/00)
According to the article: "Teens
Pan Parents’ Efforts at
Prevention" (Join Together,
6/8/200),Teens who took part
in a national survey gave their
parents
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D+
for preventing kids from
drinking |
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C+
for keeping schools and
neighborhoods safe, |
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C
for reducing gun violence,
and |
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C-
for their attempts to fight
illicit drugs, smoking,
and gang violence. |
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participants in the survey,
sponsored by Chicago’s
Uhlich Children’s Home,
also gave mediocre marks for
parent’s honesty, ability
to listen to children, and their
work in running the government.
In contrast,teens gave parents
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B
for providing a good education
to kids. |
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The overall report card gave parents
a C+ average. |
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Everyone in prevention and those
that work with teens know that
good communication is key. Parenting
a family is one of our nation’s
most valuable ventures. Studies
show that kids do care what parents
think. Whether parents realize
it or not, they communicate their
thoughts directly or indirectly
with every interaction. |
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The overall report card gave
parents a C+ average.
Everyone in prevention and
those that work with teens know
that good communication is key.
Parenting a family is one of
our nation’s most valuable
ventures. Studies show that
kids do care what parents think.
Whether parents realize it or
not, they communicate their
thoughts directly or indirectly
with every interaction. |
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Make
your communications purposeful
and positive. |
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Be
aware of how you say what
you say, as well as what
is said. |
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Most
of all, LISTEN!! |
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Especially
listen for the underlying
message and need of each
of us to be respected, heard,
understood and loved. |
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| Modeling
good communication skills can
go a long way towards getting
your kids to listen to you. Adults
need to establish good values
by being open and honest with
their kids if they expect them
to show maturity and make good
choices. In her article ("When
It Comes to Teens, Listen To
Be Heard"), Candy Jensen
reminds us that just as kids
expect parents to have expectations
about academics, we also need
to let them know that we have
expectations and rules about
standards of behavior too. It’s
important to talk about
relationships, setting personal
policies about behaviors, and
developing healthy relationships
with peers.
Another thing, as scary as
it is, research shows that talking
with your kids about relationships
and sexuality does not encourage
them to become sexually active.
Good communication is not easy,
but it is worth the effort,
especially with teens.
We at LEGACY have seen many
teens communicate very well
when they have had training
and experience through organizations
such as Peer Helpers or in healthy
families that practice "Active
Listening" with each other.
Remember, it’s never too
early to start practicing effective
communication nor too late!
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few key points that encourage
effective communication
with your teen: |
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Practice
listening and talking about
everyday events with your
teens. |
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Provide
guidance and information
to help build good decision-making
ability. |
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Be
clear about family values
and model them so they can
see how to use them to make
right choices when faced
with a difficult situation. |
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Ask
your teen’s opinions
and perspectives. |
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Listen
without criticizing or interrupting!
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Then
reflect, clarify, and share
your personal experience
with teens. |
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Spend
time together. |
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Without
this, relationships don’t
grow. |
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| No
one has yet fully realized the
wealth of sympathy, kindness,
and generosity hidden in the soul
of a child. |
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effort of every true education
should be to unlock that treasure."
--Emma Goldman
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| 3. WOMEN AND
MEN DIFFER IN THEIR STRESS RESPONSE |
| Women "Tend
and Befriend" whereas Men
"Fight or Flight" According
to the articles:
"To Fight Stress, Women
Talk, Men Walk" USA Today,
Section D,
8/78/2000) and
"A New Stress Paradigm
for Women" (APA Monitor,
Vol. 31, No.7,
July/Aug 2000):
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| The major
model for stress response
over the last 60 years has
been related to "fight
or flight" reactions
associated to acute stress
responses. All but 25% of
this research have been
done on male subjects. New
research has given support
for an additional model
just for women "Tend
and befriend". It
proposes that females
respond to stressful situations
very differently than
males. Researchers Shelley
Taylor, Ph.D. and Laura
Klein, Ph.D. have suggested
that he hormone oxytocin
may be a key to this difference.
Dr Klein says that oxytocin
is a mood regulator that
is produced by both men
and women, "but women
churn out more" because
estrogen enhances the
production of oxytocin.
She states that oxytocin
is involved in social
interaction and that being
close to others reduces
anxiety and calms you
down.
The difference for men
is that testosterone appears
to enhance fight or flight
response. This puts men
more at risk for associated
behaviors and reactions:
anger or withdrawal. Caution
is given to not misinterpret
this and assume that women
never get angry or respond
with the fight or flight
response nor that men
never "tend and befriend".
It’s just that because
of hormonal makeup and
socialization there seems
to be a difference in
how common each response
is within each sex.
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as a psychologist specializing
in helping people with stress,
I can see how this new theory
may be a significant model for
the normal initial stress response
patterns in women versus men.
However, the differences are most
likely to be seen at the initial
response to an acute stress situation,
not so different in prolonged
stressful situations. Initially,
the majority of women tend to
be more social and nurturing.
It appears that when this normal
response is blocked or thwarted,
however, it leads to anger, withdrawal,
depression and tension. Women
do tend to seek social support
more than men during stressful
times and look for ways of nurturing
and talking out situations with
friends and family members.
Men tend to withdraw or become
excessively focused and intent
on, even obsessed with, defeating
it! From my clinical observations,
by the time most people seek
treatment for stress it has
been affecting them for quite
some time. This then makes the
issue one of treating the long-term
cumulative effect, and both
men and women seem to respond
to the cumulative symptoms with
less genetic difference.
We all need to feel loved,
safe and secure (in control
of ourselves and our lives).
One thing both sexes have in
common in response to stress
is the sense of losing control.
Without a sense of control over
ourselves, stress overwhelms
us. It is important to be aware
of and accept what is happening
to us in order to know how to
cope; to regain a sense of control.
Though there may indeed be gender
differences, both men and women
can learn specific ways and
techniques to reduce stress,
feel safer, happier and more
at peace.
Legacy’s "DE-STRESS
FOR SUCCESS" training helps
both sexes find concrete ways
to cope effectively, using known
tools to address the multiple
areas in which stress attacks
(physical, emotional, mental,
and spiritual).
Tools that reduce the need
for men to withdraw or attack,
and tools that facilitate women’s
need to nurture and be nurtured
can be learned: |
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Anger
management, |
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Positive
self-talk, |
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Re-framing,
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Tools
to grasp reality rather
than working from assumptions,
expectations and fantasy. |
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| DE-STRESS FOR SUCCESS teaches
Yoga for the Office, meditation,
breath work, and awareness techniques
that enhance awareness and reduce
the stress that damages relationships
and robs the joy from our lives.
For more about "De-Stress
for Success™" visit
our web site at: http://www.de-stressforsuccess.com/
Ken Vanderlip, Ph.D.
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| If
you look after the root of the
tree, the fragrance and flowering
will come by itself. If you look
after the body, the fragrance
of the mind and spirit will come
of itself." B.K.S. Iyengar
(Yogi Master)
"Grace, beauty, strength,
energy, and firmness adorn the
body through Yoga." Yoga
Sutra , III.47
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| 5. RECENT
HEADLINES FROM 'JOIN TOGETHER
ONLINE' |
| Current Prevention
news from Reputable Source July
thru August
The following are SAMPLE TOPICS
and ARTICLE SUMMARIES.Web Addresses
are given for Full Articles
on JTO Web Site
For many more article summaries
<a href=www.legacyofhope.com/hopeframe.htm">Go
to RESOURCES OF HOPE/Join Together
News</a>
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O P S T O R I E S
Identifying the Real Gun Crisis
<a href=http://www.jointogether.org/jtodirect.jtml?U=19628&O=263986">
JTO-The Real Gun Crisis</a>
Statistics show a dangerous
connection between access to
guns and suicide.
G
E N E R A L N E W S
Caffeine in Soft Drinks Called
Mood-Altering Drug
<a href=http://www.jointogether.org/jtodirect.jtml?U=19628&O=264090>
JTO-Caffeine</a>
Researchers said that soft
drink companies are in denial
if they believe addictive caffeine
in their colas is added strictly
for flavor.
I
L L I C I T D R U G S
Ecstasy Called Most Frightening
Trend
<a href=http://www.jointogether.org/jtodirect.jtml?U=19628&O=263970>
JTO-Ecstasy</a>
Donnie Marshall, administrator
of the Drug Enforcement Administration
(DEA, said the fast-growing
popularity of Ecstasy is the
most frightening trend he has
seen in his 30 years of law
enforcement.
T
O B A C C O
Anti-Tobacco Advocates Receive
Strategy Advice
<a href=http://www.jointogether.org/jtodirect.jtml?U=19628&O=264106>
JTO-Strategy Advice</a>
Anti-tobacco advocates attending
the 11th World Conference on
Tobacco or Health in Chicago,
Illinois received some valuable
advice on strategies and tactics.
G
U N V I O L E N C E
International Alliance Formed
to Help Curb Gun Proliferation
and Misuse
<a href=http://www.jointogether.org/jtodirect.jtml?U=19628&O=264071>
JTO-Curbing Gun Proliferation
& Misuse</a>
Gun violence prevention organization,
Join Together, and international
network IANSA announce web-based
alliance to stem gun violence
and the proliferation of small
arms and light weapons. |
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| 6. LEGACY’S
"REAL WORLD ROLE MODELS"
OF THE MONTH! |
| As Susie has
traveled to over 45 states, we
at LEGACY have had the AWESOME
PRIVILEGE of working with and
getting to know many REMARKABLE
PEOPLE who have devoted their
entire careers (and more!) to
the education and well-being of
America’s kids. We want
to let the world know about some
of these AWESOME PEOPLE! Each
month we will mention a few. This
month, we are honored to recognize: |
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CORINNE
PRIDHAM – School Psychologist
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Dighton
Rehoboth High School, North
Dighton, Massachusetts |
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NAPH
(National Association of
Peer Helpers) Board of Directors |
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Past
President Massachusetts
Peer Helpers Association
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Acknowledging
Corinne for her many years
of dedication to Peer helping
on her campus, across her
state, and nationwide! |
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SHAUN
HIRSCHL – Director
of the Youth Connection
Program |
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Orange
County Volunteer Center,
Santa Ana, Californi |
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Recognizing
his innovative approaches
and dedication to promoting
Service Learning throughout
his county, state, and country. |
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AMY
BARTOO – Executive
Director |
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Idaho
Drug Free Youth (IDFY),
Coeur d’Alene, Idaho |
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With
gratitude for her endless
hours of coordination and
exceptional drug-free youth
camp design and development
year after year! |
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WANDA
FISHER – Guidance
Director |
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Atley
High School, Richmond, Virginia |
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For
tirelessly slugging it out
in the school trenches,
always maintaining an attitude
of faith and service, mentorship,
and devotion to the youth
and her profession! |
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| Send comments
or questions to Comments@legacyofhope.com
A LEGACY PRODUCTION:
Susie Vanderlip, CSP * Ken
Vanderlip, PhD * Carmella Lampe
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| ABOUT
SUSIE VANDERLIP, CSP
Certified Speaking Professional,
Dancer, Actress, Author,Prevention
Specialist, Professional Life
Coach, and Educator
Contributing Author to 'LEAD
NOW or Step Aside' and 'TEEN
POWER TOO'
"I share the dramatically
different and startlingly sincere
LEGACY OF HOPE with teens across
the country to stop their pain...the
pain that pushes them to violence,
suicide,drugs, alcohol, gangs
and irresponsible sexuality.
I share with adults who remember
their childhood angst and choose
to mentor others past the limits
of their memories:educators,
counselors, nurses, doctors,
crime prevention officers, legislators,
corporate professionals, parents
and friends.
Husband, Dr. Ken Vanderlip,
and I offer the tools that put
joy and serenity back into the
task: DE-STRESS FOR SUCCESS
workshops & seminars.
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